Don’t take any action for granted.
These are two words that children so often neglect to say. When young, we take Mom for granted. Perhaps we always do? Having our own children helps us realize that Mom really did appreciate it when her child or children expressed appreciation for something she had done for them. If your Mom is still alive, when was the last time you thanked her for something? When was the last time you reflected on all the many contributions Mom made to your life?
A recent “Sunday Morning” TV program had a segment on what you would say if you could have said something to a departed person. Examples were a parent, a child, teacher, friend and so on. It was beautiful, sad, and touching all at the same time. The host was wondering what some of the Boston Marathon survivors must have thought after the explosion? What did they wish they had said to those who died or who were injured in the senseless attacks? On the news I heard much about how so many sought out their loved ones to hug them and tell them how much they cared about them. Sad that it often takes a tragedy or some unsettling event to make you reflect on kindnesses. How did this recent event impact you?
In my life I’ve learned to look for ways to express my appreciation and to give encouragement. It takes intention and practice to become habitual. We all have personal examples where we wished we had told someone how an act of kindness helped us or made a lasting impression on us. What began as a small project for the woman mentioned on “Sunday Morning” has turned into an entire book. The lesson? For me it was don’t wait, don’t let an opportunity pass without acknowledging an act of kindness, a gesture that makes a difference to you. Why? Simply because you may never get a second chance.
Another point made indicated that by writing a letter to someone it was a release of thoughts you carry around. Like energy, releasing these thoughts was cleansing and brought a sense of peace to the writers. I know I’ve kept letters and cards received over the years from my Mom. Now deceased, I found letters of mine I had sent her over the years. Memories how bittersweet at times. I have letters from friends, loving relationships, relatives and clients that all mean so much to me. At work I even have a couple of hanging files entitled, “Love Letters”. Like anyone, reading uplifting positive words cheers me up when I need it! Funny cards are posted inside my credenza. I hope you have something similar where you keep important letters from others. I hope you take time to re-read them.
This Mother’s day, take time to thank your Mom. Do it verbally and in writing. Mom’s like to go back and re-read notes and letters. If she is gone, then thank someone else who has made a lasting impression on you. Both of you will be enriched by the experience. And that, as is said, is priceless!
Happy Mother’s Day!