Happy Father’s Day to all the leading men or women out there!
Father’s Day has mostly been somewhat odd for me. My Dad died when I was seven, and my Mom didn’t remarry. There was little family, so the male role models in my life were mainly youth ministers from my church, and the Dad’s of a few friends of mine. When I was a kid, I certainly didn’t understand the prodigious job my Mom had playing the roles of both Mom and Dad as best she could. She was a strong and independent woman, so I guess I come by those traits honestly!
I used to make or buy my Mom Father’s Day cards on occasion trying to tell her that I appreciated her dual role. That used to make her cry. Being a single parent in the 1960’s was, I think, more difficult for a woman than it is today. Being a widow was even harder. As a single parent myself due to divorce, I can appreciate the tight bonds that many healthy families do have. Kids can benefit from having both parents, only if both parents are healthy influences themselves. If they are not, then the stronger parent bears a greater responsibility to take on more of the other parental role. I’m a great believer in the adage that “Friends are the Family you choose”. Society has been actively re-defining what a family is for a long time now. Having good role models and a strong support network are what every person needs!
We probably all have someone in our lives, male or female, who has been a role model or mentor of some sort to us. We should remember to thank these people in some way. Everyone appreciates and unexpected card, letter or flowers. They can make our day brighter! I know I do!